The short explanation
Repeated checking that you know is excessive but cannot stop, and that is making you late, is a common pattern in obsessive-compulsive disorder, often called OCD. In OCD, an unwanted worry such as a fire or a break-in drives a repeated action to reduce the anxiety, but the relief is short and the urge comes back. Only a clinician can say whether it is OCD, but it is a well-understood and treatable condition. A specific type of talking therapy, called exposure and response prevention, helps many people reduce checking, and some people are also offered medicine after assessment.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- What matters is how much time the checking takes, how distressing it is, whether there are other repeated thoughts or actions, and whether it is getting worse.
- Stress often makes checking worse, so it may come and go with work pressure or life events.
- Many people hide their checking out of embarrassment. Telling a clinician exactly what you do and how often helps them help you.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot diagnose OCD or rule out other anxiety problems. A doctor or psychologist needs to talk with you to work that out.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Does what I describe sound like OCD?
- Can you refer me for exposure and response prevention therapy?
- What can I do while I wait for therapy?
- How long does treatment usually take?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you have thoughts of ending your life, have harmed yourself, or feel you cannot keep yourself safe right now.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days if the checking is now taking hours or you feel hopeless about it. You can also call Tele-MANAS on 14416, the free national mental-health helpline, which answers in many Indian languages.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Book a routine appointment with a psychiatrist or psychologist to talk about the checking.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Anxiety MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Mental health MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Generalised anxiety disorder in adults NHS
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