The short explanation
Many people in India still feel that seeing a psychiatrist means being called mad, and that fear is understandable. It may help to explain to your mother that a psychiatrist is a medical doctor who treats conditions like depression, anxiety and sleep problems, the same way a cardiologist treats the heart. Most people they see live ordinary lives, work and look after families. Start by listening to her worries rather than arguing. You could suggest one visit to discuss her sleep, energy and mood, offer to go with her, and remind her that what is said is private. Some people find it easier to begin with a general physician or a counsellor.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Low mood in older women can sometimes be linked to thyroid problems, vitamin deficiencies, medicines, grief, loneliness, or memory changes, so a medical check is useful.
- If she is not eating, not sleeping, has stopped caring for herself, or talks about not wanting to live, the situation is more urgent and waiting is not safe.
- Tele-MANAS on 14416 can also guide family members on how to approach a reluctant relative.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot judge how unwell your mother is or what treatment she needs. A doctor who sees her can assess that.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- How can I explain what a psychiatrist does to my mother?
- Could her low mood have a physical cause that should be checked first?
- Can I come into the appointment with her?
- What signs mean we should not wait?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 if your mother talks about ending her life, has harmed herself, or has stopped eating and drinking to the point of being weak and unwell.
Book an appointment soon
- Help her see a doctor within a few days if her mood is getting worse or she is not caring for herself.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Encourage a routine appointment with a general physician or psychiatrist, and offer to go with her.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Depression MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Depression in adults NHS
- Mental health MedlinePlus (NIH)
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