The short explanation
Haan. Three years of caring for someone with paralysis, often alone and after giving up your job, is very demanding, and exhaustion, irritability and crying are common signs of caregiver burnout. It can also slide into depression or anxiety. Seeing a doctor for yourself is not selfish; you cannot keep caring well if your own health breaks down. A doctor can check your physical health, ask about mood and sleep, and suggest support. Counselling, respite care, help from other family members, and support groups for carers can all ease the load.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Back pain from lifting, poor sleep, skipped meals and missing your own check-ups are common among carers. Tell the doctor about these too.
- Sharing the care is worth raising openly with your husband and family. Even a few hours a week off can make a difference.
- Some hospitals, NGOs and home-nursing services offer training and short-term help for families caring for someone after a stroke.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot tell whether your tiredness and low mood are burnout, depression or a physical problem. A doctor who examines you and talks with you can judge that.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Am I showing signs of depression as well as tiredness?
- Can my physical health be checked, including back and sleep?
- Are there respite or home-nursing services nearby?
- Can I get counselling for carers?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you have thoughts of ending your life, have harmed yourself, or feel you cannot keep yourself safe right now.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days if you feel hopeless, cannot sleep, or feel you might lose control with the person you care for. You can also call Tele-MANAS on 14416, the free national mental-health helpline, which answers in many Indian languages.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Book a routine appointment for yourself, separate from your mother-in-law's appointments.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Stress MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Depression MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Mental health MedlinePlus (NIH)
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