The short explanation
Many newborns have their days and nights mixed up in the first weeks, because their body clock is not yet developed. This usually improves gradually over the first few months. You can gently help it along: during the day, keep the home bright and normal, with usual sounds, and talk and play with the baby during feeds. At night, keep lights dim, voices soft and feeds calm and quiet, without play. Getting some daylight together in the morning may also help the baby's clock. Meanwhile, look after your own sleep: rest when the baby sleeps in the day, and ask family to take over chores or hold the baby so you can sleep. If you are formula feeding or expressing, another person can do some night feeds.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Newborns need to feed often, day and night, so long night sleep is not expected in the early weeks.
- If the baby cries inconsolably, has fever, feeds poorly or seems unwell, see a doctor.
- Feeling very low, anxious or unable to cope should be shared with your doctor; postnatal depression is common and treatable.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This cannot tell you about your baby's health or your own. A doctor or health worker can check you both.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Is my baby's sleep pattern normal for this age?
- How can I help my baby sleep more at night?
- Is my tiredness normal, or should my iron or thyroid be checked?
- What support is available for new mothers?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 if you have thoughts of harming yourself or the baby, or the baby has breathing difficulty or is very hard to wake.
Get help the same day
- Get care the same day if the baby has fever, refuses feeds or you feel unable to cope.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Discuss sleep at your next postnatal or baby check-up.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Sleep disorders MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Insomnia NHS
- Insomnia MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine)
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