The short explanation
Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way. Broken sleep in the early months is exhausting, and it can make anyone feel foggy, irritable and overwhelmed. But not being able to sleep even when the baby is asleep, and feeling like you are losing your mind, are worth taking seriously, because they can be signs of postnatal anxiety or depression, which are common and treatable. It may help to share night feeds where possible, for example with expressed milk or formula given by a partner or family member, so you get one longer stretch of sleep. Asking for help with household work, and resting rather than doing chores when the baby naps, also helps. Please also tell your doctor or health worker how you feel.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Signs that point beyond normal tiredness include constant worry, feeling hopeless, crying a lot, losing interest in things, or frightening thoughts.
- Thyroid problems and anaemia after delivery can add to tiredness and low mood.
- Joint families often have strong opinions about baby care; asking for practical help with sleep is reasonable.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This cannot tell you whether you have postnatal depression or anxiety. A doctor or health worker can talk with you and assess this.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Could I have postnatal anxiety or depression?
- Should my thyroid and haemoglobin be checked?
- How can my family help me get more sleep?
- Is there counselling support available?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby.
Get help the same day
- Get help the same day if you feel unable to cope or cannot sleep at all for several nights.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days to talk about how you are feeling.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Insomnia NHS
- Insomnia MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine)
- Sleep disorders MedlinePlus (NIH)
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