The short explanation
Yes. Self-harm is a way some people cope with overwhelming feelings, and many doctors and counsellors have helped people who do it. A good clinician will not shout at you or shame you. They will want to understand what the feelings are and help you find other ways to get through them. Self-harm can bring short relief, but over time it can become harder to stop and wounds can get infected or be deeper than intended. Talking therapy, including approaches that teach ways to manage intense emotions, helps many people reduce and stop self-harm.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- It helps to describe how often it happens, what usually triggers it, and whether you ever have thoughts of ending your life, which are different from self-harm but sometimes come together.
- Cleaning wounds properly and knowing when a cut needs medical care matters while you work on this. A clinician can advise you on wound care without judgement.
- If you are worried about your family finding out, you can ask the counsellor what they will and will not share. Adults have a right to confidentiality except when there is serious danger.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot judge how risky your self-harm is or what is behind it. A counsellor or doctor who talks with you can do that and suggest the right support.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- What can I do instead when the urge comes?
- How do I look after a wound safely?
- Will you tell my family about this?
- What kind of therapy would help me?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if a cut is deep, will not stop bleeding, you have swallowed tablets or a chemical, or you feel you might end your life.
Get help the same day
- Get medical care the same day if a wound looks infected, red, hot or swollen, or you feel the urges are getting stronger.
Book an appointment soon
- See a college counsellor or doctor within a few days to talk about support. You can also call Tele-MANAS on 14416, the free national mental-health helpline, which answers in many Indian languages.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Suicide MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Mental health MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Depression in adults NHS
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