The short explanation
Yes, take it seriously. Many people who are thinking about suicide mention it indirectly and then laugh it off because they fear being judged. Asking her directly and calmly, for example "Are you thinking about ending your life?", does not put the idea in her head. Research and experience show it often brings relief and opens the door to help. Listen more than you speak, do not argue or lecture, and tell her you want to help her get support. Encourage her to speak to a doctor or call Tele-MANAS on 14416, and offer to go with her or sit with her while she calls.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Signs that the risk may be higher include talking about a plan, giving things away, saying goodbye, recent heavy drinking, a recent loss or crisis, or a previous attempt.
- If she lives alone or far away, ask if someone nearby can be with her, and ask whether she has access to medicines, pesticides or other means, and whether those can be removed for now.
- Look after yourself as well. Supporting someone in crisis is heavy, and you can call a helpline for guidance too.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot judge how much danger your sister is in. A doctor, mental-health professional or helpline worker speaking with her can assess that.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- How do I ask her about suicide without upsetting her?
- What signs mean I should call emergency services?
- Can I speak to her doctor or psychiatrist with her permission?
- Where can I get support for myself as a family member?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 if she says she has a plan, has harmed herself, or you believe she may act soon. If she is far away, call 112 and give her address, and try to get someone to her.
Get help the same day
- Help her speak to a doctor or Tele-MANAS on 14416 today if she has said she wants to stop living, even if she later laughed it off.
Book an appointment soon
- Help her book an appointment with a psychiatrist or counsellor within a few days and check in with her regularly.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Suicide MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Suicide World Health Organization
- Depression in adults NHS
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