The short explanation
Being pushed, and being made to feel scared in your own home, is a form of domestic abuse. It is not a normal part of marriage, and you do not have to adjust to it. Abuse often includes shouting, threats, control over money or movement, and physical harm, and it tends to get worse over time rather than better. You can get confidential help. The women's helpline 181 can talk through your options, including counselling, legal help and shelters. A doctor can treat injuries, record them, and connect you with support. In India, the law protects women from domestic violence, and you do not have to leave home to get help.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- It helps to think about safety in advance: keep important documents and some money where you can reach them, save emergency numbers, and identify someone you can go to.
- The stress of living with abuse can cause sleep problems, anxiety, low mood and physical symptoms. These are worth telling a doctor about.
- If you are pregnant or planning a pregnancy, abuse often increases in pregnancy, so let your doctor know.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot judge how much danger you are in. A helpline worker, counsellor or doctor who hears the details can help you plan for safety.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Can you record my injuries and what has happened?
- Who can I talk to confidentially about my options?
- How can I make a safety plan?
- Can I get counselling for the anxiety and fear I am feeling?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 if you are in danger right now, have been hurt, or are being threatened. You can also call the women's helpline 181 at any time.
Get help the same day
- Get medical care the same day for any injury, especially to the head, neck or abdomen, or if you are pregnant and have been hit.
Book an appointment soon
- Speak to the women's helpline 181, a counsellor or a doctor within a few days about support and your options.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Domestic violence MedlinePlus (US National Library of Medicine)
- Violence against women — fact sheet World Health Organization
- Mental health MedlinePlus (NIH)
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