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My in-laws want to know if it's a boy or a girl. Can the scan doctor tell us if we ask politely?

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The short explanation

No. In India it is illegal for any doctor, sonologist or scan centre to tell parents the sex of the baby, under the Pre-Conception and Pre-Natal Diagnostic Techniques Act, often called the PCPNDT Act. This applies to government and private centres alike, and scan centres display notices saying so. The law exists because sex determination has been used to end pregnancies of girls, which led to a severe imbalance in the number of girls and boys. Scans in pregnancy are done to check the baby's development and your health. A good scan centre will refuse to reveal the sex, however politely you ask.

What depends on your situation

The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.

  • Asking for or arranging sex determination is also an offence for the family, not only the doctor.
  • If you are being pressured by family about the baby's sex, it can be very stressful. You can ask your doctor to explain the law to your family directly.
  • If pressure turns into threats, harm or being forced to end a pregnancy, that is abuse; you can seek help from the women's helpline 181 or call 112 in an emergency.
  • Your antenatal care does not depend on the baby's sex.

What this answer cannot determine

The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.

  • This cannot give legal advice for your situation. A lawyer or the district appropriate authority under the PCPNDT Act can explain the law in detail.

Questions for your clinician

Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.

  1. Can you explain to my family why the sex of the baby cannot be told?
  2. What will my scans be checking instead?
  3. Is there a counsellor I can talk to about family pressure?
  4. Who can I contact if I feel unsafe at home?

When to seek help

Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.

Emergency — call 112 now

  • Call 112 if you are in danger at home, are being forced to end a pregnancy, or have heavy bleeding or severe belly pain.

Book an appointment soon

  • See your doctor or a counsellor within a few days if family pressure is causing you distress.

Raise it at a routine appointment

  • Keep attending your routine antenatal scans and visits.

Sources

The evidence this explanation is built on.

  1. Prenatal care MedlinePlus (NIH)
  2. Pregnancy MedlinePlus (NIH)

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