The short explanation
Mood swings, tearfulness and irritability are common around menopause, so this may well be part of what your mother is going through. Changing hormone levels can affect mood directly, and poor sleep from night sweats can make everything feel harder. It is also worth knowing that this age often brings other pressures, such as caring for parents, children leaving home or health worries. Sometimes what looks like moodiness is depression or anxiety, which deserves care in its own right.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- It helps to ask her gently how she is sleeping, whether she has hot flushes, and whether she feels low most of the day. Listening without dismissing her feelings matters a lot.
- Signs that suggest depression include losing interest in things she used to enjoy, feeling hopeless, changes in appetite, or talking about being a burden.
- A doctor can talk to her about both menopause symptoms and mood, and treatment options exist for each. She can ask for a woman doctor, and you can offer to go with her.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot tell whether her mood changes are from menopause, depression or another cause. That needs a conversation with a doctor who can assess her properly.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Could her mood changes be linked to menopause?
- How do we tell the difference between menopause mood swings and depression?
- What treatments could help her sleep and mood?
- Would counselling help?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if she talks about ending her life or harming herself.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days if she seems low most days, has stopped eating properly or cannot manage daily tasks.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Book a routine appointment so she can talk about menopause symptoms and mood.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Menopause — symptoms NHS
- Menopause NHS
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