The short explanation
Yes, painful sex after childbirth is common, especially after a tear or an episiotomy. Even once stitches have healed, scar tissue can be tender, the pelvic floor muscles can be tight, and vaginal dryness is common while breastfeeding because of lower oestrogen levels. For many women this improves over time, and there is help available if it does not. Going slowly, using a water-based lubricant, and choosing positions that let you control depth can help. Stopping when it hurts is important.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- A doctor can examine the scar and check for dryness, infection or a tight area. A pelvic floor physiotherapist can help with muscle tension.
- Fear of pain can make muscles tighten more, which increases pain. Talking with your partner about going at your pace helps.
- You can ask for a woman doctor if that feels more comfortable.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot tell why sex is painful for you. An examination is needed to look at the scar and the vaginal tissue.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Is my scar healing normally?
- Could breastfeeding be causing dryness?
- Would a pelvic floor physiotherapist help?
- Are there treatments for dryness that are safe while breastfeeding?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you have heavy bleeding, a high fever with shivering, chest pain, sudden breathlessness, or thoughts of harming yourself or your baby.
Get help the same day
- Get seen the same day if sex causes heavy bleeding or you have fever and pelvic pain.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few weeks if pain continues or is getting worse.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Raise it at your postnatal check or a routine gynaecology visit.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Postpartum care MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Pelvic floor disorders MedlinePlus (NIH)
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