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Sex has become painful since the menopause. Is there anything that helps?

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Editorially reviewed Version 1 · Last reviewed 25 September 2026 · English

The short explanation

Yes, and it is one of the most treatable symptoms there is. Falling oestrogen thins and dries the vaginal tissue, and local vaginal oestrogen — a pessary, cream or ring — reverses that for most women. It works locally, is used in very small amounts, and is a different question from whether systemic HRT suits you. Moisturisers used regularly and lubricants used at the time both help alongside it.

What depends on your situation

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  • Pain can also come from the pelvic floor tightening in response to anticipating pain, which is why it sometimes persists after the tissue improves and why pelvic floor physiotherapy is useful. Lichen sclerosus and other skin conditions cause pain too and look different on examination.

What this answer cannot determine

The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.

  • This cannot examine you or tell you which of these is causing your pain, and pain during sex is not always vaginal dryness. Persistent pain deserves a look rather than a product.

Questions for your clinician

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  1. Would local vaginal oestrogen be appropriate for me?
  2. Is there a skin condition here that needs treating differently?
  3. Would pelvic floor physiotherapy help?
  4. How long before I should expect a difference?

When to seek help

Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.

  • See someone promptly for bleeding after sex, an ulcer or white patches on the vulva, or pain severe enough to stop you passing urine.

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