The short explanation
A missed miscarriage is when the pregnancy has stopped developing but the body has not yet started to pass it, so there may be no bleeding or pain. It is a shock, especially when you felt pregnant. It is usually caused by chance problems in the pregnancy's development and is not caused by anything you did. There are usually three options. Waiting for the miscarriage to happen naturally, which can take days or weeks. Medicine to help the body pass the pregnancy, usually at home or in hospital. Or a minor procedure to remove the pregnancy tissue. Each has benefits and drawbacks, and in many cases you can choose which suits you.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Your choice may depend on how far along the pregnancy was, your health, how far you live from the hospital, and how you feel about waiting.
- Whichever option you choose, ask what bleeding and pain to expect and when to come back.
- Your blood group matters; if you are Rh negative, you may need an extra treatment.
- Grief, guilt and numbness are all common. Your partner may also need support. It is fine to take time off work.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This cannot tell you which option is right for you. Your doctor, knowing your history and scan, can explain them, and the choice is yours to make with them.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- What are the benefits and drawbacks of each option for me?
- What bleeding and pain should I expect, and for how long?
- Do I need any treatment because of my blood group?
- When can we think about trying again?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you soak a pad within an hour, pass large clots, feel faint or dizzy, have severe pain, or develop fever with foul-smelling discharge.
Get help the same day
- Get care the same day if bleeding or pain is more than you were told to expect.
Book an appointment soon
- See your doctor within a few days to decide on an option and plan follow-up.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Miscarriage MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Miscarriage NHS
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