The short explanation
Sudden, unwanted, frightening thoughts or images about the baby being hurt are very common in new mothers. They are called intrusive thoughts. The fact that they terrify you and you do not want them is a sign that they go against what you want, and having them does not mean you will act on them. When intrusive thoughts are frequent or very distressing, they can be part of anxiety, postnatal depression or obsessive-compulsive symptoms, all of which are treatable.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Some mothers start avoiding the stairs or the baby, or checking repeatedly. If that is happening, it is a sign the thoughts are taking a toll and worth discussing.
- Talking about these thoughts can feel shameful, but clinicians hear about them often. You can call Tele-MANAS on 14416 for confidential support.
- If at any time you feel you might act on a thought, or you are hearing voices or feeling unreal, that needs urgent help.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot assess what is causing your thoughts or how much they affect you. A doctor or counsellor can talk this through with you.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Are these intrusive thoughts common after birth?
- Could this be anxiety or postnatal depression?
- What kind of treatment helps intrusive thoughts?
- Can I see a counsellor or psychiatrist?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Emergency — call 112 now
- Call 112 or go to the nearest emergency department if you have thoughts of ending your life or of harming yourself or your baby and feel you might act on them, or if someone you love seems to be losing touch with reality. You can also call Tele-MANAS on 14416, a free government mental-health helpline that works day and night.
Get help the same day
- Talk to a doctor or Tele-MANAS the same day if the thoughts are constant, very distressing, or you are struggling to look after yourself or the baby.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days to talk about the thoughts and how you are feeling.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Bring up your mood at the postnatal check even if things improve.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Postpartum depression MedlinePlus (NIH)
- Postnatal depression NHS
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