The short explanation
No, you do not have to accept it. Vaginal dryness after menopause is very common and affects women whether or not they are having sex. Lower oestrogen makes the vaginal tissue thinner and drier, which can cause soreness, itching, burning, discomfort when walking or sitting, and more frequent urine infections. Treatments are available and many are simple. Vaginal moisturisers used regularly can help, and a doctor may suggest local hormone treatment applied inside the vagina, which acts mainly on the tissue there and is different from hormone tablets.
What depends on your situation
The parts of this that change from woman to woman. Uncertainty is stated, not hidden.
- Avoiding soaps, scented products and intimate washes, and wearing cotton underwear, can reduce irritation.
- Dryness and soreness can also come from infections or skin conditions such as lichen sclerosus, so an examination is useful, especially if you see white patches or have bleeding.
- Many older women feel embarrassed to raise this. Gynaecologists hear about it every day. You can ask for a woman doctor, and you can bring someone you trust with you.
What this answer cannot determine
The boundary of online education. These need a clinician who can see you.
- This answer cannot tell what is causing your symptoms or which treatment suits you. A doctor needs to examine you.
Questions for your clinician
Take these with you. You can add any of them to an appointment card.
- Could this be dryness from menopause, or something else?
- What treatment options are there, including local treatment?
- Is local hormone treatment suitable for me?
- How long might it take to feel better?
When to seek help
Clinician-approved guidance for this topic. When in doubt, being seen is never the wrong choice.
Book an appointment soon
- See a doctor within a few days if there is bleeding, sores, white patches or severe itching.
Raise it at a routine appointment
- Book a routine appointment to discuss treatment for dryness and soreness.
Sources
The evidence this explanation is built on.
- Vaginal dryness NHS
- Menopause — symptoms NHS
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